Ten Steps to Calmer Parenting
Calmer You, Calmer Kids
You’ve heard it from almost all parents: “Parenting is the toughest job in
the world.” But let’s add that it is also the most rewarding. Keeping our calm
in tough times is not only good for our own wellbeing, but also a wonderful
lesson for our children—who often reproduce how parents act and behave
So when in trouble, take a deep breath, remember that this, too, shall
pass, and demonstrate a sense of calm and control. The calmer you are, the
calmer your children will be.
Take care of yourself
It’s hard to take care of your children when you haven’t first taken care of
yourself. In order to be the best parent you can be, you need to make sure
that you are at your best. So exercise, eat right, play music and practice
relaxation techniques. Your children deserve a happy and healthy parent.
Stop trying to be perfect
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so stop aiming for that. Just be
the best parent you can be. Allow yourself to make mistakes and show your
children that striving to do your best is always the goal.
Sleep in one weekend morning
It may be a luxury for most parents,
but it is a must! This means one day
during the weekend, you do not
have to be the first parent to wake
up. Having extra time in bed alone
will help you start your day better,
and it will actually impact your mood
throughout the week!
Give yourself a 10
When you arrive home from work,
go into your bedroom alone for
10 minutes before putting on your
parent hat. Change your clothes,
breathe deeply or have a shower.
This short break will rejuvenate you
for the rest of your busy evening.
Although your kids might not like it,
it is important to you, and they will
learn to accept it.
Stick to a schedule
Having a regular time to wake
up, leave for school, get home from
work, eat dinner, and put the kids
to bed makes the day go much
more smoothly. Time management
contributes to a calmer household.
Have date nights
Keep your relationship fresh with
a weekly or monthly date night. Just
a simple movie and dinner with adult
conversation is a wonderful treat.
One day your children will grow old
so nurture your relationship.
Stay connected to
You spend a lot of time setting up
play dates for your kids. Well, set
some up for yourself. You deserve to
have fun and relax, too.
Of course you are a parent, but you
are still you. Be happy with yourself,
stay true to your emotions and follow
your dreams and ambitions. Allow
your children to see who you are as
a person, not only as a parent.
Not everything is an emergency.
Some things can wait. So take a
deep breath and enjoy this roller
coaster ride called parenting.
Don’t yell. Just
It is much easier for people,
including your children, to listen to
a firm but calm voice than a yelling
voice. Make your words, not your
anger the focus of your attention.